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April 2004
Why do they call it "Good Friday"?
When I was a young child, I thought that the reason that we called
the Friday before Easter "Good Friday" was because it was the start
of a 10 day vacation from the oppressive school we attended.
(Weren't they all?) And it was good to have an extra day to prepare
for the Day of Chocolate Feasting, too!
But
as I grew up, I learned more and more about what Good Friday really
was- and it wasn’t “good” at all. It was a reminder of the most
unjust day in history. It was filled with politics, of fear, of
confusion, of beatings, and even a horrible, torturous death.
Nothing good could be said of that day.
But
the more I considered it, the better it looked. After all, that was
the plan. That day was the culmination of the ministry of Jesus on
earth. On that day, the sins of the many were placed upon the One,
and One suffered for all. Just as in the days of old, as innocent
lambs were given up as an offering for sin, on this day One Lamb of
God was offered for the sins of all. That day, to look at it from
afar, was not good at all. But to study it closely, that Friday was
very good for all mankind. That day, and the horror and agony of it,
has given us the opportunity to have a close fellowship with God.
If
you want to understand The Passion of the Christ, but you don’t
think you can handle the violence of the movie, then start with the
Bible. You can find the account of that day starting in Matthew,
Chapter 26… If you saw Mel Gibson’s movie, or read the account, and
don’t understand what it is all about, then seek out your local
church. If you’d like to see the Passion portrayed, from Good Friday
through the Resurrection, you can see a fantastic drama presentation
at Central Nazarene Church, April 2-4th- look below in
the Calendar of events for more info. And have a wonderful, and
thoughtful, Easter!
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March 2004
Getting the Word out-
Each year, we spend thousands and thousands of dollars on
advertising. From newsletters, to internet pages, to monthly ads in
the local value flyers– and most recently, radio. And, soon to come–
our billboard sign on US 23, near Hill Rd. Be sure to look for that
one!
With all that, you’d think that our message would be “out there”.
Yet day after day, we have people stop in by accident, having never
heard of us. (Of course, they’re overjoyed at the little toy store
they found….)
Advertising is a mystery. What works, and what doesn’t? We’ve
learned a lot in the last 10 years, and there’s only one thing we
can say for sure– If you want the best advertising that money can
buy, it’ll cost you—nothing. Nothing! Well, not really– it has cost
us a lot of work, but not money. The best advertising is you, and
the nice things you say to your friends about us. And we appreciate
it! “Word of mouth” advertising is the most valuable promotion we
have, and we thank you for being our ambassador!
The
reason that “Word of mouth” advertising works, is because people
more readily believe an individual that has experienced the store
than they would believe an ad in a newspaper.
So,
I’d like to encourage you to keep doing what you are doing! I’m not
going to ask you to go door to door– yet. (that’s a joke :-) ). But
if you see a struggling parent, please mention our name. Because
that’s our mission– helping parents to raise their children. Whether
through providing the educational games, or the parenting resources,
or the toddler developmental toys, we’re here to help.
Our
best advertising is you…….Thanks!
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February 2004
It’s not just a job, it’s
an adventure!
Or
so says the Army. I guess you could say that about selling toys,
too. Playing with toy after toy, trying to find the good ones…… and
working with customers who care about their children, and want the
best toys they can find. A tough job, but lots of fun! It is a
privilege for us to service you and your family.
Parenting is also a great adventure, but first and foremost, it’s a
job– one that most of us have willingly chosen. Our “job
description” is this- to raise those little helpless children to be
the next generation of adults– and they can only do it well if we
work hard at that job.
People are taking less and less personal responsibility– many are
taking the easy way out of difficult situations. But when it comes
to parenting, we can’t let down. It’s our job as parents to equip
children with the needed skills.
The
dictionary says that a parent is one who gives birth. But then it
continues on- “.....nurturer, guardian, protector...” I’d also have
to say that parents are “paracletes”– those who exhort, encourage,
aid, and support. (My spell checker wants that word to be “parakeet”
- the word is no relation, but we do sometimes have to repeat
ourselves…..)
But
the job of parenting is a wonderful adventure! We are more than
two-thirds the way through our own adventure. We’ve moved from the
nurturing stage to the “encouraging” stage. But as long as we have
this toy store, we’ll always be encouraging parents to be the best
they can be for their children, and to provide the tools for the
task.
So
today, let me encourage you– the job is demanding, and requires
perseverance. But the rewards for you, and your children, and
priceless. So keep a happy and joyful heart, and be adventurous!
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December 2003
Christmas - a most
Marvelous time of the year..
We take time off, we go to parties, we give
gifts, we drink eggnog, we kiss under the mistletoe– we celebrate in
each and every way we know how. But sometimes, the meaning gets lost
in the celebration. Certainly, it is a time to do all of those
things, because we celebrate the most joyous event in history. But
let us always remember why we rejoice….
A most marvelous God came to us in a most
unusual way, to show His incredible love for us. We remember that
fact, and rejoice, and celebrate. Don’t let the hustle and bustle
push the real meaning out of the way…….May you all have a wonderful
Christmas! Dave and Sue, and Rebekah,
too!
And there were shepherds living out in the fields nearby, keeping
watch over their flocks at night. An angel of the Lord appeared to
them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were
terrified. But the angel said to them, "Do not be afraid. I bring
you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. Today in
the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is Christ the
Lord. This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in
cloths and lying in a manger." Suddenly a great company of the
heavenly host appeared with the angel, praising God and saying,
"Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace to men on whom his
favor rests." Luke 2:8-14
November 2003
October 2003
A Fork in the road – 10 years and still
here!
Many
of you have wondered how we came to sell toys. Some believe that we
attended college for a few years to obtain our Bachelor of Toyology
(BT). Others think that it was this way from the beginning- they
think that we have always adored children, and have always played
with children’s toys. Others, the younger among you, believe that
when Santa was created, we were next in line, and that’s just how it
was!
Nothing could be further from the truth-
you see, we were “yuppies”, existing in an adult world. Childless
for 13 years (by choice), we ran a photography business,
specializing in graduates and weddings. Diapers? Not for us – yuck!
Spit and drool? No way!
Then the magic of children started
working into our lives- it started with seeing a cute little dress
in a department store, and before you knew it, we were blessed with
a beautiful little baby girl.
After visiting a shop up north similar
to the Imagination Station, we became excited about creative toys,
and wanted to bring them to Flint. About that time, the photography
career became difficult, and we were forced to make a decision-
(really, all we did was to follow our heart.) It was a very scary
time, giving up an established business for one that has a history
of failure, especially in the first few years. But we held our
breath, took the fork in the road, and with the blessings of God and
the support of our wonderful customers, our dream has grown into
what you see today as The Imagination Station.
It all started 10 years ago- times were
tough then, and they are tough again. We’ve traveled a long road to
get here, with many peaks, and just as many valleys. And we don’t
know what the future holds. But in these last ten years, we’ve come
to a real understanding of what parents go through to raise
children. It just amazes us that any of us make it through! But
that’s why we’re here- to help. With educational toys and games,
workbooks, and parenting support materials, we’re hoping to make it
easier on you- the teachers and guardians of the next generation.
We have to thank all of you for the
support you’ve given- and a big “Thank You” goes to our employees,
too- both past and present. Many people have been instrumental in
giving us counsel- fellow toy store owners, friends, manufacturers
and their representatives, teachers, and Moms and Dads. And of
course, the best counsel of all comes from the children, who make it
all happen, because they know how to play. And they have showed
us how to play again….something we had forgotten.
It has been wonderful for us to learn
that lesson. Thank you all so very much……
September2003
Lessons from the Blackout -
The Blackout
of 2003 sent people into panic– and I watched as all of Detroit
fought for the nearest gas station for fuel– it happened to be
Fenton. And the first thing they did was point the finger at who was
at fault. Well, they were. And us. Because we are a nation of
consumers, including energy, and we are unwilling to do something
about it.
Many of us recycle our paper, plastic
and glass, but when I see that huge recycle truck spouting black
clouds of diesel exhaust as it moves from house to house, I have to
wonder if our efforts might be spent better in other places.
Recycling is good– but there are other things that are being
ignored. For example, energy usage.
I was a brand-new adult around 1980,
when energy was so scarce, and I remember all the things we could do
to save energy. For instance- turn down the heat, and wear a
sweater– get a setback thermometer for nighttime, and when you’re at
work. Insulate the house. Carpool, or combine trips, such as- stop
in to our store AND do your grocery shopping on the same trip! Other
ideas—don’t leave the refrigerator open– and keep jugs of ice in the
empty areas of your freezer. Keep your car tuned up and go a bit
slower- it saves gas. Open the windows at night instead of using air
conditioning all the time—(oops! I’m guilty!) And turn off your
computer.
The generation of children today has not
really experienced an energy crisis- (though some got a taste of it
two weeks ago). But with energy costs so high, and supply limited,
it may force us to cut back on usage. And next time we can be ready.
Conservation of resources is a good
thing to practice, and it teaches our children to respect what we
have. And by making them aware of our limited energy resources,
maybe it will spark their imagination into developing, let’s say, a
flying car, powered by peanut butter……(or some similar creative
thing like that!)
And let’s call on our Congressmen to
pass an energy tax credit, so we have further incentive– it will
also create another job sector, and it may help us become more
self-sufficient in energy resources. America will be stronger if we
are more self-reliant!
How can we all make a difference? Look
for ways to save energy– make it a project for your kids, not a
chore.
Now, if we could just harness the energy
of our children, we would have infinite power……….
August 2003
The Downward Spiral and the
upward Climb.......
Being in business in a “soft” economy is a
real challenge– yes, survival is possible– but to really be in a
healthy position when the economy recovers, you have to be very
careful during the downturn. The natural reaction to a downturn is
to get conservative, stop ordering product, and just hold your
breath. But who likes to shop at a store that has nothing new and
exciting? And how happy will you be when you go to a store that
usually has what you’re looking for, and you find that they have
very little to offer you while they “hold their breath”?
I keep telling my wife that we have to be
careful of our buying, and she reminds me that we have to be on the
“cutting edge”, so that we don’t become just another toy store. So
we’ve tried to keep the new stuff coming, while keeping a good
supply of the basics. Sometimes we couldn’t do that, and sometimes
we had to make tough decisions. Brio is one of those tough choices.
We have always carried 100% of their product. Now we are targeting
just the basics– about half. But that will make room for more great
stuff!
As the economy recovers, you’ll find our
doors are still open, our staff is still ready to help in any way
possible, and our product is still second to none. It’s been tough,
but thanks to your support, we’re still able to offer you the very
best in toys, games, and educational products!
July 2003
Are we here for them, or they for us?
On a recent visit to the hospital, I saw
a father exiting with his 2-year old daughter. I could just imagine
the scenario happening moments before-
“Bye, Mommy, I love you! Get better,
OK?”
And I can guarantee that the mom just
received some of the most powerful medicine in the universe– better
than any doctor could prescribe.
I know a few parents whose lives really
don’t include their kids. But that’s not how we prefer it-we like to
be with our daughter. (Yes, a time or two by ourselves is nice, but
we prefer to be inclusive most of the time.) Maybe it’s because
we’re so old, we’re hoping some of her youth will rub off!
So I ask– Are we here for them, to
teach, and nurture, and mold? Or is the parent-child relationship
most beneficial for parents, to receive love, and hope, and
happiness? I suggest that God created the family, so that we could
lift each other up, and lean on each other when we’re down– all of
us having gifts to give to the other members, in both good and bad
times.
And now it is the season of graduation
and weddings—many children leaving the home, many eyes filled with
tears– is it the parents, the children, or is it both?
Make the most of your relationship with
your children while they are near– then, when they grow up and move
away, they’ll never be too far from your heart, and you’ll never be
vacant from theirs!
June 2003
Summer is here– Vacation, or opportunity?
Well, how about both? I know, it’s been
a rough year, running here and there, to piano lessons, to soccer,
to the school play…...you just can’t wait to kick back and do
nothing. Go ahead! Enjoy it!
But that can get tiring after a while,
and then the stress of figuring out how to keep the kids busy all
summer, and soon you’re singing the tune “I can’t Wait until school
starts!” I know this, because we have a child, too! And we talk to
parents all the time– they tell us the same things.
So, how do you survive the summer?
Better yet, how can you thrive in summer? One of the ways is to not
totally let your schedule fall apart. Schedule things like chores,
and family time, and yard work, volunteering, etc. Also, set aside
some time to review the school work from last year……
Oops……
Did I say a bad word? Come on now– you
worked this hard, getting your children through school last year–
don’t let it all go to waste, and have them forget everything. I’m
talking about a casual time, set aside each few days or so, to
review a few lessons that will be important in the future. Like
math, and a bit of geography, etc….
We lovingly call it “Boot Camp”. My
daughter wrinkles her nose, but I taught her a bit of Geometry last
summer, and when she started studying it in class, she already had
some groundwork, so it went really easy, and she aced her Math this
year. We also covered last year’s stuff, so when that was reviewed,
she knew it well.
Boot Camp also includes some reading
requirements, and keeping her room clean. I won’t say it went smooth
all the time– in fact, we skipped a whole lot of days with it– but
it’s summer, and that’s OK with us!
May 2003
Always be flexible!
The job of selling toys is really a lot
of fun, when we’re working with our customers. Behind the scenes, it
has become one of the most difficult challenges we’ve ever faced—the
industry is changing drastically.
As you know, we’re classified as a
“specialty” toy store– that is, we don’t carry all the toys, just
the ones that we think are wonderful, and beneficial, to you, our
customers. The companies we buy from have always been supportive of
our concept, and done a good job to support the 1200 or more
specialty stores in the nation.
But now, with the failings of FAO
Schwartz, Zany Brainy, LearningSmith, and more, our industry is
panicking. Some of the great companies we carry are in trouble, and
others are making less quality products, and trying to sell to
bigger toy departments like Walmart, and Toys R Us, where they will
get lost amidst the aisles of video games, Barbie, violent toys, and
just plain junk. (Sorry I’m so opinionated, but I love what I do,
and feel strongly about this– special toys belong in special
stores!)
But we’ve noticed a shift in our
customers, too– many of you are seeking us out for help in the
educational aspect of your child. From the beginning, this was our
vision– now, it looks like we have a chance to fulfill that vision
even stronger.
Over the next year or so, we will be
changing our mix of toys, games, and educational materials just a
bit, to meet the ever-changing world. You’ll find more helps for
your children, such as workbooks and study guides. We’ll still carry
the greatest toys on earth, but each toy will be looked at twice, to
make sure it belongs in our store. We may say goodbye to some
current toy companies, but if we do, it’s to make room for something
more important, or more exciting. And in the end, it will be a
benefit to all. As always, we’re just trying to serve you
better……...
April 2003
March 2003
Can I get an Amen?
There are a lot of issues that divide us
as a people. One person’s delight is another person’s annoyance
-(just ask my wife). Numerous wars have been started by small,
meaningless disagreements. And of course, that “U of M vs. MSU”
thing is definitely in there somewhere.
But one thing we can all agree on is
that we love our children, and want the best for them. It is our job
as the present generation to focus our energies on developing the
next generation.
Our associate pastor has a saying-
“Where your heart is, there lies your ministry”. The word “ministry”
means “to serve”. Yes, even serving dinner is ministering to your
family, if you put your heart in your cooking!
If you love children, there are a whole
lot of ways in which you can serve. Beyond your family, you can
start with your local church, teaching Sunday School– or check out
the area Little League, which is always looking for help. How about
helping in the classroom, or starting a neighborhood service group,
gathering children together to help their neighbors? In these ways,
you pass on to the next generation the gifts that you possess– and
show them that someone cares about them. And really, that’s all any
of us want, isn’t it?
February 2003
Our Mission-
For those of you who have just recently started getting our
newsletter, you may have noticed that this column usually deals with
family issues- problems that we face as parents, and some
suggestions on how to ease them. Now, why would we do that? After
all, we’re just a toy store, trying to make a buck…….
Not completely true! This business was
founded on the principle that toys can make a difference in a
child’s life. We believe that the type of toy is more important than
the quantity, and that development of the whole child is important-
mentally, physically, spiritually, and socially. We are committed to
helping parents help their children.
Our product selection mirrors that
commitment. We select our toys, books, and music with care. If it
has no purpose, or we believe it may have a negative impact on the
child, we pass it by.
But we don’t stop there- we’ve “pushed
the envelope” a bit further. We carry parenting books by some of the
most respected family advocates in the country– Dr. James Dobson,
Kevin Leman, and Cynthia Tobias. And we’ve brought in some great
chapter books by some leading authors- exciting books with a strong
moral message. We’ve also found alternative music to the rapidly
changing “pop” scene. (If you’re not involved in your child’s music
selection, you should be– some sections of the music industry are
really getting destructive!) We don’t claim to have all the answers-
we’re just here to give you a hand.
Our newsletter list keeps growing, and
growing, and growing… As it does, we want to continue to concentrate
on things that matter - Home, family, and education. But we’re not
working alone- we have you as a partner. Your support is everything
to us, giving us a purpose for being here.
Profit is important to any business, but
that’s not how we measure our success .
It is our hope that through this toy shop, we can bring a bit of
fun and laughter to your family, and help your children thrive in
their educational goals. If we succeed in that, we’ve accomplished
our goal!
January 2003
Toys for a New Generation.....
How do you like it? “Toys for a new
Generation” is our slogan for 2003. You’ll see it in our
advertisements, and in our literature.
But that doesn’t mean we’ve gone over to
the “dark side” - you know, keeping up with the fads. We truly
believe that the “New Generation” needs the basic toys that nurture
creativity, imagination, and construction. So we’ll keep looking for
those special toys that make your children smile, and help prepare
them for the world to come!
December 2002
Christmas—a toy history
People have spent many years
contemplating the history of toys. It boggles the mind to think-
What was the first toy? Was it wood, or stone, or even animal bones?
And the big question– was it advertised on TV?
Once upon a time (it was 1884),
three young brothers began making high quality wooden toys in the
city of Osby, Sweden. The BRIO Corporation got its name from those "BRothers
Ivarsson of Osby." The brothers didn't know back in 1884 that the
company they started would one day bring such joy to so many
children. Today, BRIO is the #1 wooden toy company in the world.
Lego was invented in 1932 – who
knew that this little company from Denmark would have such a
profound impact on so many young engineers?
Erector Sets began in 1913,
produced by Gilbert– they have become an American icon, with many of
us having fond memories of them.
Through the years, small retailers
like us have strived to provide the happiness that comes from a
quality toy. Nothing is more precious than the smile of a happy
child on Christmas day.
Megastores are relative newcomers
to the world of toys. Providing an endless sea of merchandise, some
believe it has been the downfall of the quality of play. Now, many
toys are designed to last only a few moments, and though the toy can
have an exciting commercial promoting it, the box can sometimes be
more fun than the toy!
But it’s all about kids, isn’t it?
We at the Imagination Station are committed to keeping “play” alive
in the hearts and minds of all people, young and old!
The Star of Bethlehem
“We saw his star in the East, and we have
come to worship Him..” Matthew 2:2
That simple phrase, spoken by some very
wise men about two thousand years ago, has been the basis for
countless songs, stories, and a multitude of Christmas tree toppers.
But I’m convinced that the real “Star” of
Bethlehem was not in the sky, but somewhere below, laying in a
manger. The Star shined bright among us for just a few short years,
as history goes, but in that amount of time, brought more truth to
us than the world had ever seen, or has seen since.
This Christmas, let the Star shine bright
within your family, for it is the real reason we celebrate
Christmas.
And there were shepherds living out in the fields nearby, keeping
watch over their flocks at night. An angel of the Lord appeared to
them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were
terrified. But the angel said to them, "Do not be afraid. I bring
you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. Today in
the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is Christ the
Lord. This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in
cloths and lying in a manger." Suddenly a great company of the
heavenly host appeared with the angel, praising God and saying,
"Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace to men on whom his
favor rests." Luke 2:8-14
November 2002
Passages
Through the years, our family has seen the
seasons of life come and go. We have made so many passages from one
season to another– some good, some difficult. And yet, during this
month of Thanksgiving, I have to say that God was there in all of
it.
We are coming upon our store’s ninth
anniversary– yet it seems that it was only yesterday. Even less time
has passed since our 11-year old daughter was born, and only moments
ago, I married my wife, who has faithfully stood by my side in
matrimony for almost 25 years. You see, the memories make time
irrelevant.
But life moves on. What will be the next
big milestone in our life? I couldn’t begin to guess– the more I
make plans, the less chance any of it has at becoming reality. Time
after time, we’ve tried to figure out the future– only to find
something different was planned for us. And as we traveled the path
that God directed us in, we would look over and see how wrong our
own ways would have turned out.
And since our Silver anniversary is this
month, and I’ll probably forget to get a card, let me say this to my
wife– Thank you for 25 years of true devotion– your dedication to
our marriage has been unwavering. And I could only hope that the
next 25 years would be filled with so many good memories!
Now, you’re all invited over to our house
for 25 years worth of home movies……..
October 2002
The value of the toys we carry...
Are we just a smaller version of the big guys, or is there
something very special about our toys? The answer is clear to some,
and not so clear to others– so, let me take you through a
comparison.
Our philosophy of toys is the same as yours– toys are a way to
bring out the joy in a child. There are few things more heartwarming
than seeing a child laugh and giggle as they play. You just know
that they are in full “imagination” mode, and that is an exciting
thing! Careful selection of your child’s toys can also bring about a
deeper satisfaction– the knowledge that you are contributing to the
development of your child.
There is nothing better for your child than an open-ended toy.
My favorite example is the wooden ABC puzzle—it has letters of
different colors that fit into a single die cut board. As new
parents, we were going to teach our bright child to read at age two,
so that’s when we bought it. I soon realized we were jumping the gun
on the reading part, but found out that we could do much with this
puzzle. We taught her to stack the pieces, learned the colors,
learned to count, then learned the letters and sounds, before making
them into words a year later. All for $11.95. That is what an
open-ended toy can do for your child!
Not all of our toys have THAT MUCH value, but you can see that
there is more to “toyology” than meets the eye. Even if the big guys
had our toys, they wouldn’t know what to do with them. They don’t
have time to learn about their product..
System toys, like Brio and Lego, are a great value to both
parent and child. With Brio, the child starts with a small set that
they can play with. As the child grows, so does the complexity of
the system. Soon, they are creating their own layouts, learning
geometry, problem-solving, and so much more! And of course, the
value of Lego is well understood– but did you know that a bucket of
bricks can be more beneficial than the themed pieces? Especially for
a young child. Why put their brains in a box? Let them make their
own type of space ships!
You see, it is so much more than just buying the most
TV-advertised toy. Don’t let the “big boys” fool you– when it comes
toys, well, you know where to go...
Make a Memory.....
Last month, our family made a memory– we
took a tent, and went camping. I was thankful that it was only three
nights– my back is not what it used to be!
We used to camp all the time– we
couldn’t afford any motels. Borrowing tent and stove, we would make
our way across the country, visiting the many wonders of the USA.
What wonderful memories we have of those times! But that was before
we were burdened…..oops, I mean...blessed with a child. Things
became very complicated, and as our business grew, we had more money
and less time. Vacations became two days added on to a business
trip.
One day, we pulled out our photos of
times gone by, and our daughter saw the camping pictures.
Immediately, she started lobbying for a camping trip. It sounded
great at the beginning– but do you realize how much stuff you have
to pack for camping? I mean, the campsite gives you a piece of dirt,
and you’re expected to do the rest!
We cut through Canada to Niagara Falls.
There were so many opportunities to talk about the difference
between US and Canada; the currency, the laws, the people. We also
got a chance to discuss the geology of the Falls, and how to make a
campfire. Someday, all that may come in handy!
Anyway, this is something our daughter
can look back and say “I remember”. The holidays are coming– what a
great time to create memories, start traditions, and draw closer.
September 2002
9/11/01…...I can’t believe it’s been a year-
……..and still the images remain as fresh
in my mind as the day I watched it. Even more so, because it didn’t
seem so real at the time. As the country and the networks prepare
for the one-year anniversary, I can’t help but wonder how the
children are doing. We’ve all suffered through a devastating year–
the terrorist attacks on our country, the anthrax scare, the child
abductions, the sagging economy– the only bright spot is that next
year just has to be better.
But by my observation, seemingly the
most fragile among us- the children- seem to be doing all right.
There’s been no way to shelter them from this– we just have to help
them through it. And it looks like we’re doing a pretty good job.
How will this affect them in the future?
Maybe not at all, maybe a lot. Hopefully it will awaken them in to a
sense of patriotism, of caring for others, and a better vision of
what is right and what is wrong. We just have to be diligent in
steering them the right way. More now than ever, we need to be aware
of any changes that happen in the attitudes of our children. Some
changes are normal– we just need to be alert. Anger and fear can
hide inside for a long time, doing inward damage, before revealing
itself.
I believe the one-year anniversary will
be a tough time for all of us. It’s a good time to gather the family
and remember the loss, to celebrate the heroes of the day, and to
thank God for this great country. After all, it was freedom that was
attacked, and the spirit of freedom lives stronger today than any
time in recent history.
August 2002
Are you “Plugged In”?
I’d like to “turn you on” to a great
magazine, called “Plugged In”. It’s published by Focus on the
Family., and it has been a real eye-opener. Now, most of you know
that we are a bit conservative– we want to know what our child is
listening to , and what movies are safe for us to view, etc. This
magazine has been a great resource for us.
The morality of America is under attack
by the media, and by those who believe that “freedom” means free to
do anything they want. Of course, there have to be limitations–
otherwise, murdering your neighbor would be commonplace- (not you,
Jodi...) There is objectionable content in many of the things that
our children see and hear– this magazine tries to bring you current
information, so that you know what is entering the minds of your
little, and not so little ones. This is one of those indispensable
tools for raising kids in today’s world.
This magazine is published by a
Christian organization, but the magazine will give you a very good
idea of what’s out there, trying to entice our children. Some of the
items you’ll find in this magazine are: CD album reviews from
music’s “leading artists”- movie reviews– book reviews, and more.
Are you interested? I hope so. This
month, we are providing a free back-issue for your review– just ask
for it!
You can also access their web page, at
www.pluggedin.com”
A dissertation on the value of wooden blocks
The wooden block– a very forgotten
item when it comes to the glamour and glitz of today’s toys. But it
just may be the most valuable play toy in your toddler’s toy box!
The wooden block was possibly the very
first toy ever. (Maybe it was the marble….) Even though today’s
block has been overshadowed by the electronic world, it still
remains the toy of choice among toddlers today. Let me show you some
of the qualities hidden within those blocks that you may not have
known about-
1. Discovery– the young child will
discover that one block can be stacked upon another. They’ll also
notice that it balances better when laid on its side. And, two make
a better base than one. Now, I know you’re snickering right now,
because of the simplicity of the discussion. But to the child, these
things are really going on inside their mind!
2. Fine motor skills– Stacking wood
blocks upon each other requires a certain amount of “finesse”– the
child quickly realizes that he or she cannot just fling the blocks
in place, and they coordinate their muscles to fit the need.
3. Problem solving– there is a lot
of math and science involved with block building– leverage, weight
distribution, fulcrums, etc. These things will not have a name at
age two, but the child will start to learn the principles, and begin
putting it to use quickly in everyday life.
But why wood?
Why not just make hollow plastic cubes for the
child? The reason is simple– the weight and feel of wood helps the
child realize the balance and weight distribution needed to place
one block upon another.
Today’s wood blocks are based on the “unit”
principle, making it quite easy for the young child to build. Each
dimension is a multiple of the basic dimension. Whether it’s small
or big, the block is based on the 1x2x4 ratio.
We recommend blocks made by Brio, which are
beechwood– Plan Toys, which are rubberwood, and Beka, which are the
best, made of hard-rock maple. (And made in the USA!) We suggest
that you shy away from pine blocks, unless your budget requires it–
the weight is not there. It is much more difficult to build with
lighter blocks.
Blocks are one of the most valuable
investments you can make in your child– they can start very young,
and still be constructing with them at 10 years old or more!
In closing, a quote from Robert Louis
Stevenson-
What are you able to build with your
blocks?
Castles and palaces, temples and docks….
from his poem “Block City”, from “a Child’s Garden of Verses”
Prepare the Way…..
Recently, a truck pulled up at our store with lots of great new
toys. The driver let his rig continue to run as we unloaded pallet
after pallet. When asked why he didn’t shut it down, he said that it
was better for the engine, and more economical, to let it run,
rather than restarting it.
I believe that our kids are the same way. I’ve talked with lots
of teachers. Many of them tell me that the first part of their fall
is spent trying to get the student “back up to speed”, or to get
their motors turning again. If only they had not shut down their
engine….
I know many of you work with your children throughout the summer,
whether it’s casual learning, or structured lessons. Good for you–
the teachers love it!
Now is a great time to start reacquainting your children with the
lessons they learned last year. Pull out those old school papers you
saved, and ask them to do a few math or English problems. These
subjects are especially important, since one year builds upon
another. Also grab some spelling papers, and see how much they have
retained. (Of course, for each grade, the subjects will be a bit
different).
Now, armed with that knowledge, spend a bit of time “warming up”
their little brain, so that when school starts, they can begin to
learn new and exciting subjects! And if you need workbooks, we have
a selection that may just help……..
July 2002
The Wisdom of Solomon-Two are better than one….
I can always find something of value when I open up Ecclesiastes–
you know, that book in the Bible written by King Solomon. It was
said that his wisdom surpassed even his riches. Here are some words
worth noting-
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their
work:
If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who
falls and has no one to help him up……..
Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.”
This speaks very strongly of the value of friends. A friend is
someone we can lean on– someone who we can share ideas with, without
the threat of ridicule. A good friend is a valuable and rare
commodity– something to be sought after. Once a friendship is born,
it should be nurtured and protected by both parties.
Can we be friends with our children? You bet! As long as they
understand that the authority still rests with you. I have seen many
parents succeed in creating a strong friendship with their kids,
especially as the children grow older.
Will there be disagreements in a friendship? Of course– even in
marriage, the ultimate friendship, we see many times of strife and
discord. But the secret is to see each other as partners working
toward a common goal– for the betterment and enjoyment of each
other, and the family.
A true friend will not fear telling you the truth– they will prop
you up when the world beats you down, and help you attain your
goals.
The need for love and friendship is what drives kids into gangs– if
they are not loved and nurtured at home, they will at least find
friendship within the gang.
We were not created to be alone– God realized that in the Garden of
Eden, and created woman to walk beside the man. And so it has been
ever since!
So seek after quality friendships. And encourage your children to
grow and nurture friendships with their playmates!
June 2002
The end of the journey, or
just the beginning?
On Graduation Sunday, I sat in church and watched as
each of our 20 or so graduates were celebrated, their
accomplishments listed, and their future plans revealed. My heart
was full of pride for the teens, and their parents. They worked very
hard for nearly 18 years to bring their child to this point. Some
parents laugh and say, "It's about time", but deep down, most will
feel a loss as their child moves on to a life of independence. We
only have a tween, (as you probably already know), but the
inspiration of what was to come in the next few years was
overwhelming. So many activities- so many accomplishments. So many
decisions, each of them most likely made through so many tears. In
the early years, our job was mostly to nurture and educate- now, we
need to challenge, and to start letting go. (Very slowly, of
course...) Because soon, our daughter will be asked to make many
decisions herself. She needs to make wise choices, and to have the
confidence to stand behind those choices. Today's graduate has so
many more choices than we had a teen. And as we faced Vietnam and
the Cold War, they must come to terms with "9/11" and the threat of
terrorism. What difference will "9/11" make to this class of
graduates? I believe that it will give them a more purposeful
outlook on life. Many teens made the comment that they now realize
just how fleeting life really is, and now is the time to make a
contribution to the world. Congratulations to the Class of '02, and
as you move on to the next level, may God's richest blessings be
upon you!
May 2002
Self-esteem
Teens suffer from colds, flu, aches and pains, and
acne- but these all pale in comparision the greatest malady of
all- low self-esteem. It is the chief cause of teen suicide, and is a
major contributor to teens giving in to peer pressure. Barbie, Teen
magazines, and pop singers like Britney and Christina have only
added to the problem. These things and the situations they portray
are utterly unobtainable, but our children strive to meet the
situations they are exposed to. If they fall short, and they will,
their self-esteem will most likely damaged.
When my daughter was out playing with a friend, I heard the friend
say- "Let's play Pop star- do you want to be Britney, or Christina?"
That was my wake-up call- who would be her role-model? These so
called "divas", or someone positive that she could look to. We went
to work, and found some positive role models. You can find many of
these positive role models on our website, which is devoted to the
whole child. For more info, check out www.good4kids.com/music. For
the full website, click on HOME.
But the most important input comes from our parents. Experts say
that self-worth is derived from our parents, especially our father.
Don't deride your child for getting a bad grade, or striking out at
the plate- step in and see how you can help. Help your children to
be
Teach by example- if you have a postive approach to life, so may
your child. Give your children responsibility, and see to it that
they complete their tasks. Give every reasonable moment to your
children. Help your children to set and accomplish goals. And most
of all, hug your children- show them how much you love them- it's a
recipe for success!
April 2002
"Everyone ought
to go, to Sunday School......."
Now, there's an old song! I remember
singing it in my youth, as I attended a Methodist church near our
home. But the words are somewhat appropriate, especially in these
trying times. Terrorism at our doorstep, war in the Middle East, and
the corruption of American family values knocking on our doors.
Americans are seeking out the important things in life again after
September 11, and the children have so many questions.
I attended chuch as a youth, and even became active in the church
teen group in my high school years. But as I "matured", I became
busy, and found more excuses to not attend than good reasons to go.
But the Bible says, "Do not give up meeting together, as some do".
The reason for that, I assume, is that we need the support of the
ones who have the knowledge of God within, or we'll drift away on
our own path, without accountability.
As a child approaches the "tween" years, they are bombarded with a
lot of influences that we have a hard time controlling. But if your
child is firmly entrenched in a positive group, such as the scouts,
or a church teen group, then you can relax maybe just a little. I
know that there are controversies abounding in the church nowadays,
but those situations are few, and frankly, I'd like to take my
chances where the chances are best. And sometimes, all that is left
to a parent is to pray- and it's great to have the support of
others.
Yes, maybe everyone ought to go to Sunday School, but even just
Sunday morning church is a start. Or get your teen involved in a
church teen group on Wednesday nights. I know our church group is
very active, with additional activities almost every week. But the
most important part is the sharing, and the fellowship of other
tweens and teens.
Looking for an active church with a great youth ministry?, There are
many out there- ask your friends! To see how fun youth groups can
be, you can check out "www.edge-youth.com" (and it's local!). And
for positive, uplifting music and more, try Family Life Radio, 99.7
FM. For great fun with a moral message, get some of our "Adventures
in Odyssey" tapes, on sale this month for you to try!
Make every effort you can to influence your children in a positive
way. You can't push them ,but you CAN lead them.
March 2002
Girls of Promise!
Over the past year or so, we have really
come to respect the Pleasant Company, publishers of the American
Girl books. I've talked at length with some wonderful people from
the company, and their concept is always the same- girls have great
potential, and they want to help. It shows in everything they do.
I suppose the American Girl Library is the best example- many of the
books deal with those awkward "tween" years, and how to get through
them. Other books help the parents understand the maturing process,
just in case they forgot what it was like. Well, it's never been
like it is right now- so much pressure, so much change!
We believe in youth. That's why we've decided to start the "Girls
of Promise" club. Sign up for our "Girls of Promise" club, and
you'll be able to save 25% on all American Girl books this month! In
future months, we'll have more great specials for you. Also in the
future, we'll have a part of our "Good4kids" website devoted to
Girls of Promise- where girls can share their experiences, voice
opinions, and more!
And if you need more help understanding your children in that
awkward age, let me recommend two more books to help. "Adolescence
isn't Terminal" by Kevin Leman, and "Bringing Up Boys", the
blockbuster new release from Dr. James Dobson. These are both
incredible resources for parents, and they are filled with enjoyable
stories along with helpful information. And both are available at
15% off this month at both stores!
February 2002
Telescopic, or Wide
angle?
If you have any experience
with advanced cameras, you'll recognize those terms as coming from
the photographic field. As a professional photographer, I had to
make those decisions often. Did I want a close-up of the scene, or
should I take an overall view?
Many times I look too closely at situations, trying to fix the
little problems, while ignoring the bigger picture. I'm one of the
best when it comes to over-analyzing. But lately, I'm coming to
realize that a "wide-angle" view is more prudent.
Religion is a great example of how people get all upset, build
anger, and even start wars over insignificant differences. In the
name of God, millions have been slaughtered. Yet it is not God, but
man, who has taken up the sword.
I'm not suggesting that we give up what we believe in, or even bend
to compromise our beliefs. It's just that we need to find common
ground- subjects that we agree on- that will lay the foundation for
a steady dialog, and a good relationship.
Our telescopic view can spill over to how we treat our kids, also. I
have a definite plan for my daughter's life- and it bothers me when
she chooses a different road! Yet I'm learning to pick our battles,
because I know there will be many battles to fight in the coming
years. I have to step back, take out my "wide-angle", and see the
"big picture". I don't want to win a few battles, but end up losing
the war.
What's really important? Relationships. If you isolate yourself
because of your views, your voice will be heard less and less. Find
the common ground, and create relationships. Only then will you be
truly heard in discussions.
Let us all come together, that we may have dialog!
January 2002
The Resolution
By now, you've probably given up on most, if not all,
of your New Year resolutions. I hope that's not the case, but there
is almost as many jokes about New Year resolutions as there are
about fruitcake! The truth is, these are things we really want to
do, but are usually not strong-willed enough to carry out. That's
why we try to resolve to do it- because we haven't been able to do
it before, and we want to!
Maybe we are biting off more than we can chew, so to speak. (Never
mind that most resolutions are about food). We expect to change
ourselves overnight. Just like when we were married-once we found
out about our spouses imperfections, we vowed to change them
overnight. And it didn't happen, did it?
Slow and steady wins the race! Determine to make small changes over
time, instead of expecting instant gratification. Rome wasn't built
in a day, but it became the greatest empire of its time. Remember
last New Years? Seems like yesterday, but it was over 360 days ago.
A program or goal that was begun that day and continued until this
time would be a habit by now!
Come on, try again! You don't need January 1st as an excuse! Whether
it's food, exercise, smoking, or just being more committed to your
family, take it slow, but head towards a positive direction. Find a
friend or family member to be accountable to- someone who will help
and encourage you. You can do it! Just try!
(Reprinted from 1/1/00 newsletter- but just as relevant today!)
December 2001
Fall on your
knees....
Those words are from my favorite Christmas carol, "O Holy Night".
The shepherds out in the fields, suddenly surrounded by the
magnificent angels of heaven, singing with all their might to
proclaim the arrival of Emmanuel. This was no common event- for the
shepherds, I'm sure it was life-changing.
I enjoy many different Christmas carols, but this one just seems to
transport me back 2000 years, helping me to realize the glory of it
all. We have the ability of hindsight, but the shepherds just took
the scene for what is was- the sky became as day, as angels lit the
night. A UFO sighting? No, Luke spells it out very clearly-
"An angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord
shone around them, and they were terrified. But the Angel said to
them, "Do not be afraid- I bring you good news of great joy that
will be for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has
been born to you; he is Christ the Lord. This will be a sign to you:
You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger."
Suddenly, a great company of the heavenly host appeared with the
angel, praising God and saying, "Glory to God in the highest, and on
earth peace to men on whom his favor rests."
The celebration of Christmas proclaims the coming of God in human
form. It is both simple, and very complex to understand. I don't
know everything about the first Christmas or the implications, but
the more I study, the more real it becomes to me. Take the time to
share the miracle of Christmas with your family- among all the gifts
and celebration, find a time to gather your children, and read from
the Book of Luke.
And a Christmas wish from us to you- may God be with your family
this Christmas!
November 2001
Thanksgiving never
ends!
Even though we have recently been brutally attacked, and remain at
war with terrorists, we have a lot to be thankful for. Though
sometimes we have our complaints, you have to admit that we live in
the most wonderful country in the world. Everyone doesn't always
agree with everyone else, but at least we have the freedom to
disagree!
This month is Thanksgiving- but we should give thanks every day for
our country and the freedoms we enjoy. America is more than just
borders and buildings- it's a philosophy, and a beacon of light to
the world.
We, personally, have a lot to be thankful for. The recent economic
downturn has hurt a lot of businesses- but you as customers have
been faithful, and we thank you for that.
This Thanksgiving, eat turkey, watch football, share some
conversation, and pause to give thanks for your many blessings. Take
time to remind your kids of some of the blessings that America
enjoys- free speech, freedom to worship, and a prosperous nation
that's willing to share with others in the world. Think of those who
don't have much- maybe you can find a way to share.
May God bless you, your family, and this great nation of ours!
October 2001
Will we ever Laugh again?
The recent tragedy has dampened all our spirits. The feeling of
security has passed away, and a new feeling of insecurity has rushed
to replace it. The people I meet on the street and in the store are
very pleasant, and we go about our duties as usual, but there is a
stinging quietness in the air. And I wonder- will we ever laugh
again? I mean, what is there to enjoy anymore?
But the answer is that we must laugh- we must even force ourselves
to laugh again, if need be. If we do not, then they win. It would be
a dishonor to the innocent who died if we let them win, and we
simply must not allow that. That doesn't mean that we forget, or
that we ignore the need for justice to be served. But we must not
let them steal our laughter, and allow them to claim victory.
This is a time to realize the value of family, to reconsider the
important things in life. Are you going in a million different
directions, worrying about what the future holds? Well, if you are,
you're ignoring the present, and rejecting the gift called "Today".
Spend some time with your family in a relaxed setting. Listen to
your children, and see what they are saying. Draw closer to your
church, and seek your spiritual roots. If revenge is dominating your
every thought, find someone that can help you through those
feelings. If you're angry at God, tell Him. Go ahead, He can take
it. If there is anyone who has an understanding of injustice, it's
God.
Let me borrow from President Bush's recent speech- "....live your
lives, and hug your children.".
In this way, we can settle our hearts, reclaim our joy, and learn to
laugh again!
September 2001
The Journals of Rachel
Scott
Last month, I attended the Christian Booksellers Association
convention in Atlanta. We go to see new product, and to talk with
other retailers. But most of all, we go for the retail training
seminars- they're the best I've ever seen. How to run a business
with high standards; how to provide better customer service, etc. I
learned so much!
But the really special time came when I got home. A vendor at the
convention gave me an upcoming book- "The Journals of Rachel Scott".
For those of you who don't know her, she was one of the students
killed at Columbine. Rachel was quite the writer, sharing her
thoughts in many, many journals. After the tragedy, her parents
allowed a writer to compile Rachel's thoughts- her hopes and dreams,
her fears and follies. Her journals started at age twelve- and it
gave me a vivid picture of what my daughter may face in her teen
years. As I poured through the pages, I was gripped by the reality
of Rachel's faith in God. I was absorbed by her family struggles,
and marveled at the way she handled school relationships. The book
also provided an insider's perspective that a parent doesn't get to
see too often. Almost like cheating.......
This book reminded me how important it is to express ourselves- how
important writing really is. I love to write- That's why I have this
column. This book has reminded me that I need to encourage my
daughter to write; to speak out, to express herself. It's the only
way she'll realize who she really is. "Bekah's Corner" is her first
step in journalism, and Daddy is so proud! (keep in mind, she's just
10 years old- it'll be a year or so before she writes better than
me...)
This book also provides some interesting ideas - like how to keep a
journal with a friend. I know you'll love this book - ask us about
it when you stop in.
August 2001
"Slug Bug!
No Slug Bug Back!"
I REALLY though that saying had gone the way of the disco ball- dead
and buried, with no hope of bringing it back. Well, the Disco Ball
is back, and so are the Volkswagon Bugs. And one of you out there
told one of your kids that irritating little saying, and they told
someone else, and now my kid is yelling out "Slug Bug!" every time
we pass one of those cute little cars. Ahhh, the nostalgia of it
all......
Of course, it's really irritating to hear that- especially when
you're driving in the heart of Chicago, fighting taxi cabs,
constructions, and one ways, (not to mention the traffic lights on
the side, rather than over, the road.) You're trying to concentrate,
and just as you're turning....."Slug Bug!" - and you get slugged -
that is totally uncool.
Then, after I calm down, I remember how fun it was as a kid, and how
lonely it is in the backseat when you're an only child, and that big
smile every time the VW comes by.......and I feel REAL bad for
raising my voice.
If you have an only child, then you know- they grow up a lot faster.
We have higher expectations of them- not because we hold them in
such high esteem- it's because we have nothing to compare them to.
They are just little adults. They're always around adults- we talk
differently with them, etc....It's easy to steal their childhood
from them. Especially in this fast-paced world.
I wasn't really an only, but I grew up as one. My brothers were 14
or more years ahead of me. Still, my parents made a good attempt to
give me a childhood. They even let me fail at things once or twice-
and that gave me the will to work harder.
With an only child, I
believe we have to re-evaluate more often- keep an eye on their
development, and make sure we give them a childhood. Not that we
should expect anything less than the best they can give, but let's
let them have a childhood! And no one needs to hear that more than I
do........I'll try to do better, sweetheart.......
The American Girl
Experience
We recently were in Chicago to attend the Merchandise Show, looking
for more great product. What a big place- we could walk for miles,
all inside the same building! Our daughter had never been to the
American Girl Place, so we took most of a day and made a visit. We
were able to see the American Girl Revue- a play performed by girls,
ages 10-14. In the play, there was a girl's club, and each girl
imagined that they were one of the American Girls. It really gave me
a good idea of what each girl is about. These are not just dolls
with a pretty name and a price tag- they have a history, and a
purpose! The books portray the girls in their respective time
setting- Addy is a slave, during the civil War, leaving the
plantation, and making flight to freedom. Molly's story is set at
the end of World War 2, and the struggles she faces. Kit overcomes
big problems during the depression. Through all of this, one idea
holds true-
"I will be brave, I will be true, I will do the best that I can do"
These stories reinforce the idea to young girls that no matter what
the problems, they should rise to the occasion, and do their best to
be an overcomer- to not let the situation overtake them.
This month, we're giving away a Kit doll. Stop in either store to
enter! We'll also be having an American Girl Playday at Miller Rd-
see below and inside for details! During this playday, girls will be
offered a chance to share their experiences, or to tell a little bit
about their favorite American Girl. The American Girls grew up in
tough times- but I know that there are some brave little girls
facing tough times right now. I have such a respect for the Pleasant
Company- and the values that they present. They're working hard to
instill confidence and purpose into young girls. We need top take
every opportunity we have to inspire young children to be their
best- and to rise above the situations in life that try to drag them
down!
July 2001
The Incredible Machine
With today's energy crisis, we need a machine that will take in
various types of fuel, use every possible drop of energy contained
in it at maximum efficiency, make automatic adjustments, and repair
itself. A totally self-contained unit!
Well, that machine exists today- and has for thousands of years!
(Millions, if you believe some of the scientists). It's called the
human body, and it's the most incredible machine ever designed!
Of course, lately we've been putting it to the test. An excess of
refined sugars, flours, and an abundance of processed fats have put
a slam on our systems. And the habits that children develop will
carry throughout their life.
I remember summer as a kid (that was during the last millenium).
Popsicles, ice cream, a trip to the drug store for some chocolate.
But Mom always had a balanced meal for supper. (Unless I was
successful in hiding my peas under my plate!). Now we find so little
free time that fast food overtakes the dinner hour. As good as they
are, our bodies require a good balance of protien, complex
carbohydrates, and essential fatty acids to function at their best.
This is especially true with children as they grow.
I hardly ever write these articles from an expert point of view-
it's usually something that we are battling in our lives, too. This
is one of those battles, and we just have to make a concerted mental
effort to do these things. Hopefully, you're not struggling with
this problem - but if you are, you're not alone- and it's not
hopeless- keep up the fight! Add the proper fuel to those little
engines- Do it for the future of your children!
June 2001
Summer is for Homeschooling!
The title alone will upset 70% of the parents, and 100% of the children. But let me explain before you shoot me- How much are our children losing over the summer, if we just let them ignore the learning process? I believe summer is a great time to apply the education that your children just spent 9 months learning. It doesn't mean purchasing curriculum and a chalkboard, or a desk and a clock.
Here's the plan- choose projects that reinforce subjects such as math, and science! Projects such as cooking will help with fractions. Hobbies such as rockets and paper planes, and bug hunting, will help with science. You can watch the History Channel, or rent videos, or get them from the public library. On vacation, let your children read the map, and let them help plan the route.
And don't forget the physical fitness part! I don't mean just running around the yard. Try and get them involved in a discipline, such as swimming laps, or learning basketball moves. Soccer and Little League are great activities, too! Mowing the lawn is also a great activity.........
The school can teach your children the basics- but you have the unique opportunity to show them how to apply that knowledge. Make the most of it!
May, 2001 What's the difference?
What's the difference whether a child gets love, or disrespect? What about whether they excel in school, or take it for granted? What's the difference if they have a good breakfast, or go to school hungry?
Well, as you see, these things are tools that make quite a difference in the outcome of a child. The more love, the better the attitude; the less hungry, the more healthy, the more encouragement, etc., etc., the better the chance for a successful childhood, and of course, the better the child will adapt in later life. This is not brain surgery, though, is it?
But what's the difference in toy stores? What's the big deal? After all, the warehouse-size store has more for your child....doesn't it? Well......Doesn't it?
We don't think so. They may carry some things we don't....but overall, the shopping experience for you, and the value for your child, goes to us. At least, that's what we hope you'll think. We try our best to make it that way!
Whenever I get discouraged about being such a small toy store, unable to carry some of the things we'd like, I just take a walk.....through the aisles of the other toy stores around. That makes it all better!
We're here for you and your children- we appreciate your business, and we know your children will benefit!
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April 2001 The Real Meaning of Easter..A New Beginning!
"Twas the night before Easter, and Mom's cookin' the eggs,
Tomorrow I'll have chocolate, and I won't have to beg!"
Each Easter morning when I was a kid, I would awake to the wonderful smell of the Easter basket- filled with chocolate, and those marshmallow ducks that got your fingers all sticky. But only one or two pieces- I had to save room for the coffee-cake breakfast! Then each Easter Sunday, as most other Sundays, it was off to church. I'm thankful for the heritage my parents gave me, of knowing that Sunday morning was reserved for God. The years past, and I pulled away from that habit for a while, but a year or two into our marriage, we knew it was time to return. Now, we're continuing that heritage with our own family.
Some people think that going to church just on Easter and Christmas is hypocritical. But if you believe there is a God, like 90+ percent of Americans say they do, then you owe it to yourself to find out about Him, and Easter is a good place to start. After all, the Christian faith really kicked into gear on the first Easter.
Easter can be a new beginning for you, too- the meaning of Easter is taught in houses of worship, but the spirit of Easter can only be found in your heart!
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March 2001 "May you live in interesting times..."
The statement above is an old Chinese blessing- though today some may feel it's more of a curse. We sure do live in interesting times!
Can you imagine what it was like without microwaves, or computers, or automobiles? How could we ever live in a society that was so backward that you had to leave the house to go to the bathroom? And yet, how many times do you sit around and think how bored you are?
What does the future hold? How much faster can we go? Can the human mind actually take much more, before it blows a fuse? Certainly, our health is suffering because of all the innovation we have created. Stress is skyrocketing, and we are becoming desk-jockeys, hardly moving from our seat at the computer.
And what of the family? How have all these changes affected our family relationships? I feel like we have so little time to interact as a family, because we're so busy chasing all the technology- trying to keep up at our job, or the latest video game, or trying to learn about the newest computer innovation. Have you ever tried to talk to your child while they are playing GameBoy?
So how do we combat the negative affect? We should find ways to relieve the stress- slow it down, take a break. Try the ancient art of taking a family walk, or shooting some "hoops". Plan a picnic, and leave the cell phone home. Forego the fast food restaurant in favor of a home-cooked meal.
Yes, we do live in interesting times. But the goal is to use the technology wisely- not to let it control us. Be a thriver- Not just a survivor!
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February
2001 This clip comes from the recent presidential inaugural speech-
"After the Declaration of Independence was signed, Virginia statesman John Page wrote to Thomas Jefferson: "We know the race is not to the swift nor the battle to the strong. Do you not think an angel rides in the whirlwind and directs this storm?" "
Page was speaking about 13 colonies, loosely organized, taking on a swift and strong England. The odds were long, yet these men believed in their just cause. The outcome would not be directed by men, but by the higher power they put their trust in.
Is your family a whirlwind? Or maybe a storm? I can point to many times when I felt that way- it's just the way families are!
The family is the unit that holds America together- yet it is under attack from all sides. Overtaxed, overworked, with so many diversions (TV, Nintendo, Internet, etc.). But we believe, and it's comforting to us to know, that an angel rides this whirlwind, and directs this storm. Otherwise, I believe it would only be moments before destruction.
And President Bush concluded-
"This work continues. This story goes on. And an angel still rides in the whirlwind and directs this storm."
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January
2001 The Resolution
By now, you've probably given up on most, if not all, of your New
Year resolutions. I hope that's not the case, but there is almost as
many jokes about New Year resolutions as there are about fruitcake!
The truth is, these are things we really want to do, but are usually
not strong-willed enough to carry out. That's why we try to resolve
to do it- because we haven't been able to do it before, and we want
to!
Maybe we are biting off more than we can chew, so to speak. (Never
mind that most resolutions are about food). We expect to change
ourselves overnight. Just like when we were married-once we found
out about our spouses imperfections, we vowed to change them
overnight. And it didn't happen, did it?
Slow and steady wins the race! Determine to make small changes over
time, instead of expecting instant gratification. Rome wasn't built
in a day, but it became the greatest empire of its time. Remember
last New Years? Seems like yesterday, but it was over 360 days ago.
A program or goal that was begun that day and continued until this
time would be a habit by now!
Come on, try again! You don't need January 1st as an excuse! Whether
it's food, exercise, smoking, or just being more committed to your
family, take it slow, but head towards a positive direction. Find a
friend or family member to be accountable to- someone who will help
and encourage you. You can do it! Just try!
(Reprinted from 1/1/00 newsletter- but just as relevant today!)
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December
2000 What's it all about?
Christmas is a time of lights, of snow, of Santa, and endless
Christmas specials on TV. It's a time of cookies, and mistletoe, and
frantic holiday shopping. But it's also a time when we come
together, sometimes from long distances, to get re-aquainted, to
remember times gone by, and to build relationships for the future.
Why do we do this? I believe we are just following an example given
to us 2000 years ago. You see, God came down, to get re-aquainted,
and to build a relationship for the future. The angels, they all
came together and sang Christmas Carols. The wise men saw the star,
and came from afar, bearing gifts, to come together and build a
relationship. The shepherds heard about it, and came, too! In fact,
they saw the joyfulness of the angels, and couldn't help but want to
be part of the gathering.
Sometimes we look at our family gatherings as a time of trouble, or
of discomfort. But this Christmas, let's follow the true example
that was set down so long ago.
Have a joyful, wonderful Christmas!
Dave & Sue, Owners
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November 2000 Rock, Paper, Scissors- Building a strong
moral family
Remember the game? Rock breaks scissors, Paper covers rock, scissors
cut paper- the loser gets a slap on the wrist. (My wife assures me
that when she played, the punishment was even worse). Well, life is
not a game, and the consequences of a wrong choice can be more than
a slap on the wrist. It may seem like an eternity now until their
training is complete, and your children leave home to enter the
world, but it's just around the corner.
Will they be a piece of paper, blowing here and there by the winds
of opinion and change, or will they be a steady rock, staying the
course? Will the scissors of temptation come and cut them to pieces,
or will they be a rock and deter the sharp attacks of the world
around them? Our job as parents is to provide a strong foundation-
to strengthen their moral fiber so that they can survive this
ever-changing world. I remember one parent telling me that she would
never try to influence her young child in what they believe- she
would let him decide right and wrong. Like a paper in the wind......
It is not good enough to just hope that our children turn out good-
we must take that pro-active stance! And once they leave the nest,
they'll turn and say, as we do- "Well done, good and faithful
parents!"
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October 2000 Let the Adventure begin!
The election season is upon us. Once again, we will show the world
that this great experiment called America can, and does, work!
One commentator recently described our government as weak, since
politicians come and go at every whim of the people. I, for one,
believe that it should be that way. And that is what makes us
strong! When government is not accountable, then we are just pawns,
being played for sacrifice for the few in power. No, I believe we do
not need someone to tell us what to do. We have proven that with a
representative government who is subject to removal if they don't do
what we ask of them, things work out pretty good. Not perfect, but
pretty good, considering what the alternatives are. For over two
hundred years, with the help of God, we have been able to govern
ourselves.
This fall, take time to share the election with your children. Get
them interested in the process, the good and the bad. This much
freedom only comes around every four years, so take advantage of the
opportunity. And most of all, get out and vote- even if that means
you are voting against your husband, wife, dad, (or even me), your
voice needs to be heard. And you need to set an example to your
children, lest they follow in the footsteps of apathy. For if we
become too apathetic, then, and only then, will we open the doors to
lose the precious freedom that has been bought for us at such a high
price.
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September 2000 Another Year Begins..........
Another school year has come! Just like last year, only the clothes
are a bit bigger, or longer, or wilder, the music is a bit louder,
the books are slightly thicker. Seems like yesterday we were
discussing daycares, and now it's fourth grade. How many minutes
until she graduates? I can count them on my fingers.
Experts say that our daughter is entering the "critical years". They
say that the next few years will determine her future- how she sees
the world and reacts to it. Well, I have news for them- that's been
happening since she was born. Every year is critical in the growth
of a child. I can't think of a single year where we just sat back
and coasted along.
I know that there are both physical and emotional changes to come. I
know that because I've talked to many of you that have had your
children go through it. Our store may be a great source for creative
toys, but you as customers have proven to be a great resource for us
as we venture down the parenting road. The stories parents share
amongst each other are priceless tidbits of wisdom and comfort to
help each other cope.
Yes, the "tween" years may be tough, but we'll be right there with
her, giving her counsel as she encounters the challenges of life. I
thank God for the opportunity He's given us. Though I would stop
time right now if I could, I look forward to the making of an adult,
to see her grow in wisdom and knowledge, and purpose. Go, girl!
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August 2000
Working to build a better store
Many of you that shop us know that our focus is not just on
children, but the family in general. Children can grow in almost any
situation, but they have a better chance if the ground they tread is
watered and cultivated, and free of rocks and weeds. Our focus is
providing parents with helpful tools such as educational toys and
games. We try to provide that good toy that will help prepare your
children for life. We also carry a selection of family fun, such as
Adventures in Odyssey, and Veggie Tales, which are designed to teach
children to make the right decision when faced with moral dilemmas.
That's our commitment to you, and that's why, when we got the
opportunity, we decided to head down to Louisiana last month for the
Christian Booksellers Association convention. Imagine- a toy store
at a booksellers convention! We got some questioning looks, but we
learned a lot! And we saw a lot of good products for our store! For
instance, look for American Girl books and games in our Miller Rd.
store very soon. We'll be adding books for young teens, along with
books on raising children. More playdays and demonstrations. We'll
also be carrying alternatives to current teen music. Coming soon -
Jaci Velasquez has a wonderful voice, powerful and a very positive
message.
Most important, we learned a lot about customer service. Many of you
appreciate our store because of the help you receive from our staff-
we're going to strive to be even better in the future!
It's all about the children- it's all about growing young minds-
let's all do the very best we can!
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July 2000 Each One, Teach one!
There must be something more between birth and death than the
television, or the computer. There must be more than slaving away at
housework or a job. But what could it be? What is our purpose, our
reason that we are here?
That's the way I feel whenever we open a new store. Why are we doing
this? What conceivable purpose does it serve? Why torture ourselves
with such a huge task, such a dramatic upheaval of our lives, if
there is no real purpose. My mind goes back to the Wisdom of
Solomon. In one of the finest statements of his life, he
said-"Everything is meaningless" - or, "All is garbage", depending
on the translation.( Read Ecclesiastes, chapter one- it's really
depressing!) But if you go to Chapter 12, the last part of the book,
you'll read this- "Not only was the Teacher wise, but he imparted
knowledge to the people." Yes, we're talking about what a rich king
had said 3000 years ago, but I believe his wisdom rings true today.
HE IMPARTED KNOWLEDGE TO HIS PEOPLE. Our value in life is not the
things we physically have, but the knowledge we can pass on to
others. Do you toil from sun to sun, and never get anything done?
What message do you send your children? It's great to be busy, it's
commendable to work hard. But do you set aside time for teaching the
important things? We need to pass on to our children the lessons we
have learned. They may not listen, but sometimes they do! Reinforce
the important things- spiritual heritage, moral behavior, charitable
giving.
We want to be a lighthouse- a positive place where we can bring our
message of "education through fun and play" to more parents. With a
new and larger store, in a more convenient location, we feel we can
do just that.
Be a lighthouse to others- guide your children, showing them the way
through this fog of life!
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June 2000 Please don't throw it away!
I'm a pack rat- I keep things, knowing that someday, just someday,
they might come in handy. Like every type of old electrical wire
I've replaced, and every can of paint that has more than two ounces
left in it. It's not that I like junk, it's just the thought that
I'd throw something away that I might need someday. Then I would
have to spend twenty minutes traveling to the store to purchase it
again. As it is, I spend three hours sifting through junk to find
something. I never find it, and have to go to the store anyway.
Now if I were crafty, I could change my stuff into something neat.
But that won't happen. You see, then I would have to make room for
all the leftovers of the craft I just finished- the paint, the
fabric, or whatever. By the way, does anyone need some OLD
wallpaper? It was $2 a roll- couldn't pass it up! Yes, it's still in
the roll- all 9 of them.
Lately I've really tried to change- to actually THROW AWAY some
things. Just the thought makes me nervous. But hey- It's either that
or sleep in the hallway- it's the only placed left without stuff.
But one day I ran across something that I just couldn't part with- A
card for Father's Day some long time ago, from my daughter-
(handwritten in crayon)-
DEAR DADDY- I LOVE YOU - BE HAPPY - LOVE, REBEKAH
.........Some things are just meant to be kept.
May 2000
The Other Side of the Mountain
One of my favorite singing groups is Steve and Annie Chapman-
probably less than ten percent of you have actually heard of them,
but they sing about the family. Annie sings a song about motherhood
that has the line "If I'm alive when this day is done-"; and now
that we've been parents for nine years, I understand that line.
Parenthood is difficult- motherhood in particular, because the
day-to-day pressure seems to be on Mom. As our daughter gets older,
I think that it will get easier, but time always proves me wrong.
Now I learn that the coming teen years can be the most trying.
I always thought that "The other Side of the Mountain" meant that
things would be easier once you got through this stage, or that
stage. But it's not. I still see my Mom worry about her children,
with concern about our careers, our family, our finances. Some
people think that it's meddling- I'm just glad she cares.
Now, I'm beginning to understand that "The other Side of the
Mountain" is the other side of parenting. It's the relationship you
build with your child- the sharing and caring, the hurts and the
happiness. And that never has to end, either. It starts with the
parent giving all, and the child receiving. But as our child grows,
it becomes a two-way street, with love and caring passed back and
forth between us.
Yes, parenting is tough- but the benefits far outweigh the costs.
Now go give your little tax-deductions a hug!
April 2000
Evil prevails when good people
do nothing!
The recent school shooting in Flint brought the national school
violence really close to home. It gave me a small glimpse of what
the Columbine parents in Colorado must have gone through. The first
thing I heard was that there was a school shooting near Flint. Even
though there are over a hundred thousand students in this area, I
still had to wonder- could it be my child? I quickly flipped
channels looking for more information, turned on the radio, and even
searched the Internet for more updates. Those few minutes before I
could get more info were somewhat anxious.
The problem goes a lot deeper than gun control. No matter how well
you raise your child, you can't guarantee that others are doing the
same. You invest all your time, all your love and affection, and
someone comes and steals it in a moment. It may be a shooting, or a
drunk driver, or just a nasty illness,
What has gone wrong with the world? Better yet, how can we fix it?
In the name of "a better society", we have allowed many of the basic
rules of the life to be set aside. Whether you are in favor of them
or not, you must admit that the Ten Commandments are a wonderful
framework for society. Yet a million times a year, "You shall not
Kill" is passed up in the name of "freedom of choice".
Gambling on the rampage, porn on the Internet, partial birth
abortions, violent video games, moral decay in the government and in
the family. And yet, the economy is good, so why argue? If we each
do a small part, and some of us do a bit more, or convince others to
join us in the cause of saving the family, we just might make a
difference.
What can one family do? There is an election coming up-know the
issues, and fight for them! Get to know your neighbors, make
friends! Keep the line of communication open between you and the
school. Strengthen your marriage, and set a good example for your
children, and those around you. Support family-oriented charities-
there's a lot of needs out there- you can make a difference!
This Christmas I was
exiting the highway, and saw a man holding a sign as he sat on the
ground. It stated- Will work for food- 5 mouths to feed- Jesus is
Lord.
Wow. A multitude of feelings swept through my being. Poor man- tough
spot- is this a bluff? - what should my response be? Should I just
look the other way? Certainly there is work out there for the
willing! Maybe someone else will stop and help. But as a Christian,
I'm called to help the poor. There must be someone else to help, and
I don't have time to interview this person and find out the
situation, so.........
What is this world coming to? I'm sure I'll see another person with
another sign someday, and probably will not stop for them either.
But is that right? When is the last time you stopped to help a
motorist with a flat? I give my wife specific instructions not to do
that.
I don't know the answer here, I'm still searching. I just know that
the world is changing, and I don't like the direction. I love the
quote-"Evil men prosper when good men do nothing". It's a challenge
to me, and that's why I write this column. But is that enough? No. I
need to go beyond that- there's more I can do. There is more that
everyone can do. The question is- are we willing- and if so, then
when?
Give 'em a
smile!
When you meet someone on the street, whether friend, acquaintance,
or just a polite stranger, do you find yourself offering them a
smile? Of course, you probably do. It's common practice to do so.
But now think- do you offer that same smile to your spouse, or
children, each time you see them?
I have to admit that I fall short in that area. I'm not sure why,
but maybe it's because of the frequency that I see them. However, it
makes it no less right. These are the people we care about the most,
yet we sometimes seem to forget the simplest common courtesy.
Smiles and laughter will draw your family closer, reduce stress,
build confidence in the relationship, and many more good things. Of
course, they have to be genuine, but these are your most important
people in all the world- isn't that something to smile about? Yes,
sometimes children are irritating, and spouses too, but if you see
beyond the current situation, to the big picture, the problem won't
seem so bad.
Here are a few famous quotes and phrases that prove my points-
"Give me a smile, or give me death!"
"The smile that launched a thousand ships."
"Four score and seven smiles ago..."
"I'd walk a mile for a smile."
"How do you spell relief? S-M-I-L-E."
February 2000
Life on the Edge
You know, teens live life on the edge- they feel they are
indestructible, when in actuality, those years are the most
devistating to many. They are also the most influential in a child's
life, next to the toddler years. And the parents wonder- will my
child be strong enough to survive those tumultuous years? Or will
they fall in to the trap of drugs, or alcohol, or smoking, or sex?
Or even the new problems of self-mutilation, where kids physically
damage themselves, to try and take some of the focus off the
emotional pain they are suffering?
Will your children be strong? They have a better chance if your
relationship is strong with them. Start now to build a strong,
trusting communication bridge. As our daughter grows, I see her
pulling away ever so slightly from us, to try and stretch her wings.
The tendency is to keep her close, then I realize that all I want is
control. But our job as parents are not to keep her safe within the
nest, but to teach her to fly, to soar among the clouds as we do,
with the freedom God gives us. Scary thought, but we were there
once, too.
Family Life Radio carries a program called "Dawson McAllister Live",
on Sunday nights at 8pm (WUGN, 99.7 FM). It is a call-in program,
and gives real insight to the world of teens.(Strong moral content-
but we could all use some of that, couldn't we?)
January 2000
The Resolution
By now, you've probably given up on most, if not all, of your New
Year resolutions. I hope that's not the case, but there is almost as
many jokes about New Year resolutions as there are about fruitcake!
The truth is, these are things we really want to do, but are usually
not strong-willed enough to carry out. That's why we try to resolve
to do it- because we haven't been able to do it before, and we want
to!
Maybe we are biting off more than we can chew, so to speak. (Never
mind that most resolutions are about food). We expect to change
ourselves overnight. Just like when we were married-once we found
out about our spouses imperfections, we vowed to change them
overnight. And it didn't happen, did it?
Slow and steady wins the race! Determine to make small changes over
time, instead of expecting instant gratification. Rome wasn't built
in a day, but it became the greatest empire of its time. Remember
last New Years? Seems like yesterday, but it was over 360 days ago.
A program or goal that was begun that day and continued until this
time would be a habit by now!
Come on, try again! You don't need January 1st as an excuse! Whether
it's food, exercise, smoking, or just being more committed to your
family, take it slow, but head towards a positive direction. Find a
friend or family member to be accountable to- someone who will help
and encourage you. You can do it! Just try!
December 1999
Only Decoration
The lights, the carols, the holly and the ivy, the snow on the
trees. The Christmas tree, the Santa in the mall, the egg nog, the
ornaments. All pointing to a very exciting time to gather together,
to make memories, to warm the hearts in a cold season. It's fun,
it's exciting-
But that's not Christmas. It's only the decoration.
Underneath it all, you have the real story. But do the news programs
dig for the real story? No, you'll find them at the malls, talking
to retailers, to shoppers, trying to unmask the latest toy, or
whatever else makes a fluffy story.
But it's all decoration- and sometimes it covers the truth about
Christmas.
The truth has no electric lights, only the bright smile of angels.
There is no Santa here- only the wise men brought gifts. Instead of
hospitality, Christmas was pushed back into a dirty, smelly place
where animals were kept. Some gathered together to rejoice, but many
sought Christmas to snuff it out. No matter, Christmas had a job to
do, and He got it done.
Christ IS Christmas- God the Savior, giving up everything He had in
Glory, to come down and give us the opportunity to meet Him. His
love gives us the true reason to celebrate Christmas!
Share the real Christmas among your family this year- it'll give a
stronger meaning to the season!
Shining Star
Today's kids chase after every star they see- no, not celestial
stars, but stars like Brittany Spears, Backstreet Boys, and that
country singer who "Feels Like A Woman". Oh, and Pokemon, Sailor
Moon, and even Bart Simpson. How about Stone Cold Steve Austin, and
all the WWF characters? I didn't mention Beavis and Butthead, I
think their popularity is waning. I'm sure that there are a lot more
to list, but I'm just not up on these things anymore. Once in a
while my daughter surprises me- she's never seen the Spice Girls,
but some of her friends have, and so she likes them, too!
What's amazing is that to the kids, even teens, these represent the
"I want to be like them" people. Of course it's been like this for
generations. But if the kids only could realize that these are not
perfect people - in fact, many are probably some of the most
dysfunctional in the world- trapped in a high-profit, highly
exploitive world. Many are on drugs, have no home life, get married
and divorced frequently, get arrested for drunk driving, and support
things like "Save the Seals". Yet when CNN needs an authority to
answer the question "What will happen on Y2K day", they turn to the
experts- these "stars". Really...I've seen it numerous times. What's
more, they actually act like they know what they are talking about.
Who are the real stars? If children only knew. They are the ones who
sit up with them at night when they are sick- the ones who pack
their lunch every morning- the ones who give up a day off every week
(or more) to coach their team, or to help at children's church, or
transport them to piano class. Will they ever get a clue?
Maybe not for a while- I know I didn't! Just imagine, though- a
full-sized poster of Mom & Dad posted on your child's door. Reality?
No chance, but it's nice to dream!
November 1999
Who's Online?
A recent poll on America Online asked the question- What was the
best TV show of the century? Well, I voted for one of the ten
choices, and fortunately, the best show of the century was listed!
"The Andy Griffith Show"! Other choices included The Honeymooners.
The X-Files, All in the Family, Friends, I Love Lucy, MASH,
Seinfeld, and Star Trek. Rounding out the choices was "The Simpsons".
Out of 127,000 votes, guess which show scored a whopping 46% to win
the poll? No, not Andy, not Capt. Kirk, and not Hawkeye. It was
Bart! How could "The Simpsons", that show with the abusive little
rebel, and a totally dysfunctional family, outscore its nearest
competitor, "Seinfeld", by more than 400%?
The reason is simple- kids really dominate the computers. I wish I
had statistics, but I bet they spend almost as much time online as
they do in school. And we thought they were watching too much TV?
Well, computers fixed that!
All this to say that we have to be very careful. If you worry about
what your child will get into in college, well, start being cautious
right now, for the problems have come closer to home- they've even
come into your home with the Internet. There are predators out there
on the Internet who would just love to get at your child- either
their spirit, mind, or even body. I know I talk a lot about this,
but I feel it bears repeating- get to know your computer- use
tracking software, and use a safe internet service for your kids.
America Online has made great strides in internet safety for kids,
but there are still some ways around it.
There is a battle going on for hearts and minds of America- and
children are in the line of fire - don't let them become the
casualties of war!
Pause to give Thanks-
On the brighter side, we do have a lot to be thankful for. We're
fortunate to live in America, the home of the brave and the free.
It's a great country, and even though some of our freedoms have been
whittled away, there is still enough to give God praise for. So we
are very thankful this November, right before a new millennium, that
we- Dave, Sue and Rebekah, have a great family, a vibrant and
growing toy store, and a great God to serve. We are also thankful to
have a top-notch friendly staff, and the best customers anywhere!
This Thanksgiving, eat some turkey, share some smiles and hugs, and
pause to give thanks for all that you have. Think of those who don't
have much, and maybe you can find a way to share, like the Native
Americans did, so long ago.
Happy Thanksgiving!
October 1999
The Challenge
Are we here just to occupy a small piece of wood and plaster called
home, or is there a greater purpose? God gave us two hands, two
feet, and a posterior. We can use them as we please. We can just sit
back on that nice, soft posterior, or we can use those hands and
feet to make a difference.
My parents have been a tremendous example to me. Though now in their
seventies, they have shown a true giving spirit. A stranded car, a
neighbor in need, whatever the situation, they have always given of
themselves. They are always volunteering in some organization.
Currently, they are at the Red Cross, with Dad driving and Mom
giving her time to help local families. Thanks for the great
example-If I only had that much energy!
You may only be one person, or you may be a family. There are 6
billion people in this world- certainly you can make a difference to
one! You can be a mentor to a younger person, or a pair of hands to
help children in a classroom. You can be a coach to a kids league,
or help in the soup kitchen once a month. How about teaching Sunday
School, or volunteer to tutor at the school? Certainly you can find
some way to help. Maybe, just maybe, if we all pitch in and do
something, we wouldn't have to have so many government programs!
Go ahead, pitch in! Help the hurting, be a friend to someone in
need. Save the next generation by being an example!
September 1999
Rare as a two-dollar bill
Last month as I was making a deposit for the business, I ran across
a two-dollar bill. My daughter saw it, and her eyes lit right up!
She immediately said,"Daddy, can I have that?" Asking why she would
want a two-dollar bill, she said, "They don't make alot and they're
hard to find", she stated. (It's true- she said it just like that- 8
years old.) I informed her that she could buy it from me. When she
couldn't find any $1 bills, she went to her special quarter bank and
raided it. She was so happy to have that $2 bill, she carried it
around with her for half the day.
To her, it was the pearl of great price. She took what she had
thought was special, and traded it for something even more valuable.
It's kind of like what adults do. We take our relaxation time, our
quiet time, and our nap time, and trade it for that special time
with our kids. Of course, we don't usually have a choice......the
little munchkins demand it of us.....but in the end, we don't mind
it too much!
If you had to sell everything to keep your children, I know you
would do it in a heartbeat. Because your children, and the love you
share with them, is more precious than anything. Sometimes we
forget, and let small problems get in our way. But do you want to
have fond memories of your children, and they of you? Or will you
remember your parenting years as one fight after another?
Now that school is back in session, the stress level rises. Take
lots of deep breathes, and get control. See things from the rosy
side. Laugh off the little things that usually send you over the
edge. Because the time you have with them is as rare as a two-dollar
bill!
August 1999
Going Back in Time.....
To raise our children to adulthood, we have to be a role-model for
what an adult should be. But we also have to meet them on their
level, to associate with them. It wasn't easy for us- we had 14
years of adulthood before we even thought of children.- But here we
are, selling toys, playing with toys, singing kid songs..... and
it's fun! It's also hard work, but the fun makes it easier. How many
of you find yourself singing along to the kid's songs that are
playing in your cassette player in the car... and then realizing
there are no kids with you? Shame on you? No- congratulations! Kid
songs are silly and fun, simple and lyrical. We need this in our
life! If you don't believe me, pick up a Veggie Tales cassette from
our store, and listen to it twice. I promise you, you'll take five
years off your age- or at least, you'll feel that way!
Yes, we have to be a role model to show our children how an adult
should act- and I believe that an adult should sometimes act like a
kid! Don't be afraid- just have fun! Sing those silly songs - laugh
until you cry- play until you're all played out. This may even be
the secret to longevity.
It certainly is the secret to your child's heart.
"Pokemon" Update-Some of you are concerned with Pokemon and what it
is all about. After some research, I've found that the card game is
a role-playing game, or RPG. Probably the most famous of these type
of games is Dungeons and Dragons, a very destructive and evil game
when you become absorbed in it. It has spells and incantations,
ceremonies, and all types of underworld creatures. "Magic:The
Gathering" (MTG) was a much calmer version of D&D, but still had the
creatures, and the goal was to steal the opponents "Life force". "Pokemon:The
Card Game" is published by Wizards of the Coast, the same company
that did "Magic:The Gathering." Are you following this? Pokeman is a
watered-down version of MTG, however, I don't see a lot of kids
playing the game to the full potential- they're just collecting and
trading them.
My suggestion is that you become informed. Ask your child what the
cards are all about, and what they do with them. Also, if you want
to have a better understanding of role-playing games, stop in and
get a special Adventures in Odyssey tape called "Castles and
Cauldrons"- it's a story about a couple of kids caught up in a
role-playing game. The tape is free- however, the quantities are
limited. Though it is not a fact guide, it may give you an idea what
D&D is all about. Again, Pokemon seems somewhat harmless to most
kids- but please become informed, and make sure your child doesn't
become obsessed and start climbing the RPG ladder.
July 1999
Two different views-
Here comes summer, and the kids are out of school. Is it good or
bad? You could look at it two different ways- which one fits you?
How about this one- "Oh, no! The kids are out of school. The teacher
can no longer babysit them for most of the day! Now I have to come
up with some way to keep them busy and out of my hair! Maybe I can
send them to camp for ten weeks. Maybe I can put them on a train to
Utah to visit their Aunt Sylvia. Maybe they can get a job at
McDonald's- I hear they need help- I hope they hire 8 year-olds! How
about summer school- it certainly wouldn't hurt. Maybe the neighbors
will get a pool and they will spend all the time over there! How
many weeks left until September? Why, those teachers- it's all their
fault!"
Does that sound like you? I'm sure most everyone has felt like that
at one time or another.
Here's another way to look at it- "Summer's here! We can finally
kick back, relax, and be a family. Piano lessons are done for the
summer, dance class is over, and we have some vacation time saved
up. It's time to get to know each other again. A little yard
improvement, a lot of nice evenings on the patio. Let's plan some
special events, such as horse-back riding, a trip to the beach, or
maybe Cedar Point. Yeah, the kids love to make Dad sick on the
roller coaster! Only ten weeks before the rat-race starts again, but
we'll make the most of it!"
Certainly summer is a combination of both, but it's our choice on
how we view it. You'll have more fun going into it with a good
attitude. Enjoy! Make the most of it! Only a few more summers and
the children will be leaving home!
June 1999
The Class of 2009....
Yes, I have to admit what everyone is telling me- the
song "Butterfly Kisses" was WAY overplayed, and many people got sick
of it. But I listened to that song alot, and the line that stuck out
was- "I Know I gotta let her go-" Ouch! How can that be? I mean,
she's my baby girl.... she has the sweetest smile.... she's always
there....I mean, she relies on us for protection, and .....and, I
guess we rely on her affection......and you're telling me that in
ten years or so, I'm gonna have to let her go? I DON'T THINK SO,
BUDDY!
There, I said it, and I'm not taking it back. Just so you know where
I stand. I mean, she's my daughter, and...and always will be. Yes, I
know, butterflies are meant to be free, but a thing of such beauty
should be held, and treasured, and looked after...and yet, she'll
never grow if she is held in captivity.
Some of you are facing this situation very soon, and I know it hurts
just a bit. Hopefully we've prepared them enough for the world, and
if we do our jobs as parents correctly, they'll never really be
gone, they'll just be on extended leave, and every time they visit,
they'll be coming home. And if we instill good morals and character
in them when they are young, they'll carry a bit of us with them
wherever they go.
Congratulations to the Class of '99, and may God go with you as you
enter the world!
May 1999
What are you staring at?
It used to be that when a person stood up for what they believed,
most people listening would nod their head in agreement. We all
believed the same things about right and wrong, because the lines
were clear. But now when we raise the question of good and moral
things, some people just stare at us and wonder what planet we came
from.
Here are some examples-Some people try to sneak through the line 3
or 4 times on a "beanie day", even though we clearly post a sign
stating two beanies per person, per day. They don't agree with the rule, so they just
ignore it. Another example- companies come to us with the latest
"hot toy"- maybe a death and destruction zapper gun, or a freakazoid-
and stare at us in wonder when we tell them that no, it is not what
we envision for our store or our customers, no matter how much money
we could make. "It doesn't matter", they say," it's hot! You'll sell
a lot!" Well, it does matter.
Where have the lines gone? Has the media stirred the waters and
stretched the envelope so much that we don't even believe there is a
line? Were the Ten Commandments nullified when they were banned from
public schools? What has happened between the time of Gary Hart and
Bill Clinton? Everything is now relative, relating to how things are
at the moment. We say, "This TV show isn't as bad as the one that
follows it, so it must be OK." If this keeps up, someday we may even
approve of the Jerry Springer show.
Society's morals are slipping away! Let's find the line in the sand,
and stand firm on the side of right. If anyone wants to cross the
line, let it be the lost ones coming over to our side. They will be
welcomed with open arms.
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